All i Ever Want To Do iS Worship . . .

Monday, October 25, 2004

long but a good read.. thanks twin

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust
is
> > broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to
> > suspicion,
> > suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may
result in
> > separation.
> >
> > A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone
call. She
> > answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She
repeated,
> "PUB."
> >
> > There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line,
she
> > Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number
from
my
> > Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is." Without
mutual
> > trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone
> > operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
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> > NO POINTING FINGERS
> >
> > A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a
successful
> > marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The
father-in-law
> > answered in a smile,
> > "Never criticise your wife for her shortcomings or when she does
something
> > wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and
> weaknesses,
> > she could not find a better husband than you."
> >
> > We all look forward to being loved and respected.
> > Many people are afraid of losing face.
> > Generally, when a person makes a mistake,
> > he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.
> >
> > This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we
point
> > one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at
ourselves.
> >
> > If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistake too (most of
the
time
> > ;).
> >
> >
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> > CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
> >
> > A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and
> requested
> >
> > "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one."
> >
> > The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good
looking,
> > polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and
dancing.
> > Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure
hour,
> > if I don't go out.
> > Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for
conversation
and
> > be silent when I want to rest."
> >
> > The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need
> > television."
> >
> > There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a
blind
> > wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the
faults of
> > the
> > husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
> >
> > Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of
> > perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement
> > of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a
bed
of
> > roses.
> >
> > The nightmare begins.
> >
> >
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> > NO OVERPOWERING
> >
> > Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower
another, or
> > demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will
conquer
all
> > and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.
> >
> > Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which
carries
> the
> > meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a
> person's
> > character."
> >
> > It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing
the
> > spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
> >
> > It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our
expectations..
> >
> >
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> > RIGHT SPEECH
> >
> > There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech
will
> > either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off
because
of
> > wrong speech.
> > When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual
> respect
> > and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would
> > hurt the other party.
> >
> > A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction
site. A
> > worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily!Remember
me? We
> > used to
> > date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire
> > husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be
the
> wife
> > of a construction worker." She answered, "You should appreciate
that you
> > married
> > me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
> >
> > Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad
> relationship.
> >
> >
> >
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> > PERSONAL PERCEPTION -->(i like this-angelia)
> >
> > Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be
> another
> > man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way
home,
a
> > boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the
donkey?"
> >
> > Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey.
> >
> > He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented,
"The
> > husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey
while
> > the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down
and let
> > the husband ride on the donkey.
> >
> > Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How
can
the
> > man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
> >
> > The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then,
> > they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold
up
the
> > weight
> > of two persons. They are cruel to you."
> >
> > Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from
the
> donkey
> > and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice
left.
> >
> > Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled.
They
> > lost their balance and fell into the river.
> >
> > You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn
you.
> > Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus,
> > do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
> >
> >
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> > BE PATIENT
> >
> > This is a true story which happened in the States.
> >
> > A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his
puzzlement,
his
> > three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint
of
the
> > truck.
> >
> > The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's
hands
> > into pulp as punishment.
> >
> > When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although
> > the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally
had
to
> > amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.
> >
> > When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he
> > innocently said, " Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he
asked,
> > "but when are my fingers going to grow back?"
> >
> > The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story
the
next
> > time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think
first
> > before u
> > lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be
repaired..Broken
> > bones &
> > hurt feelings often can't.
> >
> > Too often we fail to recognise the difference between the person
and the
> > performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
> >
> > People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the
actions
we
> > take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
> >
> > Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive &
forget.
Love
> > one and all.
> >
> > If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

MarkSae, Da-jie Bid Goodbye at 4:16 PM

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